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4 Clear Signs He is Emotionally Unavailable

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4 Clear Signs He is Emotionally Unavailable

The culture of fast dating is slowly, yet significantly shaping the world. Social media, dating sites and simply technology, created a dependence on proximity and targeted search. Consequently, finding »love» and a committed partner is becoming increasingly difficult. Sometimes, we end up falling for the wrong person, but other times, we just willingly ignore the warnings. Without further ado, here are 4 clear signs that he is emotionally unavailable.

You Know that He Wants To See Other People

Sometimes, you don’t even need to hear the words. When you get that intuition that he is seeing someone else, chances are rare that you are off. Therefore, if you are with a man who doesn’t believe in exclusivity, let alone monogamy, then maybe you should start asking questions. However, I cannot stress enough, the fact that people are not going to change until they really want to. There is nothing you can do to make them choose you, so move on!

He’s Indecisive

One point behind seeing other people, some men are emotionally unavailable through their indecisively. When someone still has to question how they feel towards you, or to what degree they are willing to sacrifice for the relationship, it’s because they were never really on board. It is terrifyingly hard to admit to ourselves that we are replaceable, yet should know enough not to settle for less than we deserve.

He Doesn’t Want To Think About His Feelings

This is a big NO NO when it comes to clear signs he is emotionally unavailable. In fact, if you see him avoid talking about his feelings, just run girl!

Seriously, psychologists say that Men who are uncomfortable with a certain emotion such as anger, frustration, or anything else, are likely also uncomfortable with emotion in general. Be careful!

Against Labeling the Relationship

You don’t always need a label for your relationship, but you definitely need to know where it is going. when you pop the important question, and he still says »I don’t know» or ‘‘we don’t have to know now», then you should seriously consider having »the talk.» In addition, men often avoid letting you know exactly how they feel, because they are not there yet. Believe me, there is nothing harder than walking with someone when you are both on separate paths.

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5 Tips For A Successful First Date

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When it comes to going on a first date, most people get a bit nervous. Leaving a first good impression could be very hard sometimes, especially with the new modern culture of dating. If you are planing on going out with someone you really like for the first time, here is our list of tips to have a successful first date.

Don’t Interview The Other Person

Although you want to get to know this new person, and see how they may fit in your life, please do not interview them. People tend to get uncomfortable when the other person has prepared targeting questions. You can always replace that with suggesting a topic and giving your opinions about it. That way, not only you get to know how this person thinks, but also to question his critical thinking and general knowledge.

Don’t Do All The Speaking

It’s very important to listen in order to understand instead of to respond. If you want to establish a connexion with someone, you have to show your active listening skills. Nothing screams a second date more than showing interest through listening.

Offer To Split The Bill

Let’s get this clear, there is no rule that states men should always get the bill on the first date. Although some prefer offering to pay, you should at least suggest to share the bill. In most occasions, they refuse to let you help because of wide-spread cultural beliefs of gender roles. However, offering to help will give away the impression that you are helpful and supportive.

A Perfect Match doesn’t Require Perfect Compatibility

If you have chemistry with this person, you will know. However, it is completely normal to have things common and still be different. Don’t be afraid to realize that a perfect match doesn’t have to be your soulmate. you can agree, disagree and still be able to share a conversation with mutual respect.

Be Yourself

Most importantly, be yourself. All the tips above are very handy. But, nothing will get you a second date than being spontaneous. Obviously, you don’t have to be an open book like you are with your friends and family, but being yourself often gets you extra points and gives off a good impression on a first date.

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Soft Ghosting Is The Latest Dating Trend To Haunt Us

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The world of online dating is a tough one, and it’s brought along its fair share of horrible dating trends. From catfishing to ghosting, we can affirm that any time an attempt at a relationship isn’t straightforward and honest, it sucks. Despite the infinite failed dates, it appears dating apps are here to stay. Over a quarter of adults of all ages have used online dating, with 57 million people around the world using Tinder alone. Here to add to your list of awful dating trend rejections is the latest «soft ghosting.»

What Is Soft Ghosting?

There’s a good chance you’ve already experienced «soft ghosting» and did not know it. This trend refers to when you have sent a long, thought out (and most likely discussed with your friends) message on Facebook or Instagram, only to get a like in response. Not even a one word response- but a LIKE. Never has a «heart» response hurt so bad!

woman wearing a Facebook shirt, confused by soft ghosting message.

Clarifying The Confusion Of Soft Ghosting

It can feel both demoralizing and confusing when someone responds with a heart but no genuine response. You may start to have thoughts swirling in your head. «Maybe this person was busy in the moment! He or she probably forgot to respond! Or what if he was being kidnapped and couldn’t respond!!» Sorry honey, but you need to stop kidding yourself.

woman asking for advice from a friend.

Soft ghosting is complicated because it’s not as straightforward as its harsher relative, «ghosting.» The person supposedly has at least SOME decency to put in the oh-so-agonizing effort of double tapping to like. But it may make you think they do not want to end the conversation. Or worse, have to ponder the question of, who sent the last official message?

Don’t Jump To Conclusions

This is much easier said than done. However, you should always give some proper time to allow someone to respond, especially if you did send a very long message. Sometimes people need some «me-time» away from social apps, and one should one hundred percent respect that.

If you think the conversation truly has not ended, or you want to continue talking, you can always send a follow up message. In the age of digital technology, there truly are no rules about «the perfect time» to send a message. (Those norms are soooo old school). However, if you do send another message and get a feeble or nonexistent response, you should consider, do you truly want to date someone that has minimal engagement? It can be a clear early sign of when to leave someone and look for better, more compatible fish in the sea.

funny meme about other fish in the sea.

Stop The Soft Ghosting In Its Tracks

If you still have not met the person, or don’t have plans for a new date, try sending some specific details about a future meet up. If he or she agrees, voila! Simply a lack of communication, your soft ghosting crisis has been averted! On the other hand, if you get zero response... It’s official. The soft ghosting has turned full on Casper mode (just in time for Halloween, how convenient).

Just remember, don’t beat yourself up for things not working out. This was a clear, truly «them not you» problem, and there is bound to be a winner in the bunch!

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Dating: 5 Signs He’s Just Not That Into You

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Modern dating is hard. Technology has influenced our interactions and relationships, and became a big deal when it comes to dating. I mean, you meet a guy, you exchange Instagrams, then you go home and start getting to know the person through their posts.

Millennials give so much importance to social media in relationships. However, this dependence created an emotional analysis of signs. you ask yourself »Why was he online and didn’t reply? Why did he leave me on read? why are other girls liking their posts? etc…»

Nowadays, studies prove that marriage rates are plummeting, and part of that, is due to uncertainty about feelings. If you don’t know where you stand with a guy, that’s probably because he is not into you. Here are some signs to keep in mind.

Mixed Signals

If a guy sends you mixed signals about their feeling, then probably they don’t really want you. Several men confessed that when they are not sure about a girl, they try to keep sending her mixed signals until she finally walks away on her own…Be careful of this type of guys because they can keep you hanging for a long time. While they are enjoying their life, you are just sitting there wondering if they actually love you or not.

Love Bombing

This the complete opposite of the previous one. When a guy uses this technique, it makes you feel valued and special. They shower you with compliments, love, and affection. You feel like they really want to be dating you. Then, all of sudden, they are gone. You wonder where did you go wrong, but it’s really not you, it’s them. They enjoy seeing you need them, and becoming attached to them. You start thinking to yourself that this could be ‘love at first sight’ but, it almost never is. These guys are not willing to commit. Next!

Young asian woman covering her face sitting on a bed with sadness

Avoids Defining the Relationship

When it comes to knowing what the two of you are, there is no better way than asking. However, if he shows little interest in knowing, or considers that it’s not important to label it, then chances are he is confused about you. If you are always wondering , then you need a reality check. A man who’s interested doesn’t leave you wondering. It’s as simple as that.

More Physical than Emotional

Physical attraction is very important in a relationship, but it’s not everything. If your guy is open about that but not his emotions, then that’s one big red flag. He is definitely not that into you if he doesn’t open up to you, share his feelings, and show interest in understanding yours. Moreover, a guy who likes you will let you in and will only hangout with you when it works for him.

He Doesn’t Make Effort

Finally, this is for me the most important sign. We often try to find excuses to why men don’t text us first. We say »Oh, he must-ve had a bad day.» Although that might be true in some cases, a man who cares about your won’t go a week without a text/call/message. So, if you are always the one making the first move, you should reconsider where you stand with that guy.

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Swipe Left For Tinder, Facebook Dating Is Here!

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Tired of using Tinder with absolutely zero luck? There’s a new dating app in town, and it’s being run by none other than Facebook, the biggest social network in the world. Facebook Dating (yes, a super original name) will accompany the platform, allowing you to create a separate profile for dating. And it’s completely free!

How Will Facebook Dating Work?

Rather than have a separate app entirely, Facebook Dating will be located within the app with its own tab (next to Events and Groups). It will function like other dating applications that require you to select to join the app in order to be seen and also view other possible matches. Unlike Tinder, Facebook Dating will use an actual algorithm to help you find a suitable contender, based on your interests, location, mutual friends, and preset preferences. Finally, you might actually have a chance with that guy you crushed on in high school!

How Will You Appear In Your Profile?

Since it is connected to your Facebook account, only the first name that you have listed will show, along with your age. You then have the option to share other information, such as your gender, the gender you are interested in, any photos from your profile, job, hometown, etc.

A sample profile on Facebook Dating

So Long, Swiping!

If you have had enough with the swiping, you can rest easy knowing that there is NO swiping on Facebook Dating. Instead, if you are interested in a person’s profile, you can leave a comment or hit a like button for them to know. If you don’t like a profile you see, simply hit «X» and you will be shown the next one.

Fear Not- No Family Here!

If you are worried about your family members popping up among potential matches, fear not! Facebook Dating does not pair you with any Friends, only «friends of friends.» However, if you have been thinking about that one cutie from high school, you still have the potential to become matches. How? By the «Secret Crush List,» where you add all the people who you have «crushes» on, and if they add you then you are both notified.

Increased Safety With Facebook Dating

Many people have been afraid to use dating apps for the fear of going out with a total stranger. What if they are a serial killer?! While the chances of that are very slim, Facebook Dating has implemented a feature to make it safer than its counterpart dating apps– by adding the option to share your live location with your friends on Messenger. You can step out in confidence your next date, and who knows… Maybe finally find the one!

Photos: Twitter: @MichaelFNunez , @verge